(8/9 - Lincoln, NE) Sara Hates Me

[NCFreak]

Well, this was my 4th NC show and my 3rd time talking to Sara. First thing's first, though...I have no recollection of the set list and do not care. Okay, back to Sara. I'm convinced she hates me and wants me dead. Every time I talk to her, I leave thinking I've done something wrong, or that she's just not the person I always thought she was, I don't know. Tonight it seemed like she was avoiding me, so maybe she thinks I'm a stalker? I finally got to introduce her to Amber, though, and finish the thank you for getting us together thing. That was nice. Got a pic of the two of them together, too. Next time, I don't think I'll worry about talking to Miss Sara. I'll concentrate on Chris and Sean.

[SnakeEyes]

I saw ya after the show, heard you mention this site even. I didn't think anything was odd. I just think Sara is still.. how do I put it... getting used to being popular. She was shocked, almost in a what's the matter with you? kind of way when I said I drove from Des Moines to see them play.

[SnakeEyes]

BTW, i snagged a setlist after the show from the soundbooth. It is as follows:

Tom
Reasons
Fox
Trouble
Ferdinand
Elliot
This Side
Sabra
Smoothie
Pop Genius
Take it Away
Pontchartrain
Cuckoo's
Should've Known
Lighthouse
Peaberry
Itzinay
Green
Beauty
Complain
Stay Awake
Jacksmith


I can't remember the other songs in the encore, but the encore closer was Be Thou My Vision.

[kerchi]

I doubt very seriously that she even knows you well enought to hate you, but it does have to be kind of weird for them to see some of the same people at different venues in a short period of time. I also doubt she thinks you're a stalker. Chin up!!!:) :D :)

[monkeyjunkie]

Bryan...chill. Sara definately doesn't know you well enough to hate you. I think it must get tough for them dealing with people who love them without even knowing them. Difficult to go through a crowd of stranger and care for each of their individual needs. You know she's a lovely woman--just trying to deal with stardom, I imagine.

[SnakeEyes]

Oh yeah, Honest Men Make the Best Liars was either the first or second song in the unplugged encore.

[Jason13]

I met her afterwards and she didn't seem like what everyone has said about her here. She didn't really want to stick around and chat... maybe she wasn't feeling well? Actually to me they all seemed like they were in a big hurry....

[Tottenham]

I got the same feeling about Sara and Sean when I met them after the Nashville concert...that they didn't want to stick around. It seemed like they were avoiding fans...quite the opposite of what I had heard about them. Only Chris went out of his way to talk to people. But I guess meeting all the fans can get really tiring...who can blame them for wanting some time to themselves. But that still won't stop me from asking them for a picture. :)
Tottenham

[SnakeEyes]

First, she was just done with a show. Secondly I even felt a little akward at first, so I bet she did too, because people weren't lining up for autographs rather they circled her with space between the circled and people sorta apprehensively approached her. A few times she looked around like ok, ummmm who's next.

She stayed around until the very last person left. The other two did not come out except for Sean later, see below. She talked with people and what not, more so after many of them had left and the circle was gone. She and three guys had a convo on music likes/dislikes for a long time. After all was done she climbed back up on stage and Mark was messing around using his feet (on the board used for clogging earlier), hands and body as percussion. She started singing a couple songs I didn't recognize and the two went on for like 10 minutes. Partway through Mark started using Sara's thigh too. Right toward the end Mark was going fast and Sara let out a little ow. It was funny. Sean came out when they were starting in on the second song and played guitar/sang on it. There was like about 10 of us left.

A woman with three children commented that they were probably holding the band members up from leaving. Sara said oh, it's no problem. We usually do this outside the bus but the alley is really small and I guess the bus couldn't stay back there.

She also commented that this was a very good crowd without people doing any shouting which she said usually happens. I mean we have a setlist up there, sometimes the guys will change things but not usually I commented hearing on the Chicago recording the lady that wouldn't stop yelling Lighthouse. She said that was the most common, shaddup, we're gonna play it anyway.

Anyway, I dunno why the last poster saw otherwise about Sara.

BTW... They were driving out of town for St Louis at 12:30am.

[SnakeEyes]

Keep in mind too, they don't HAVE to come out at all :)

[NCFreak]

Ah, crap...what have I started? I just felt weird, like I always do (as I said) and felt like getting it out. My post was half joking, as ALWAYS. I still believe Sara is the same sweet, loving person we all know and love.

SnakeEyes...which one were you? We're trying to remember if we saw you. And Jason, which were you?

I SO wish we coulda stayed to see those two playin' around on stage, and been able to talk to Sean. Oh well...

Lastly, I say again...Sara good. I think SnakeEyes, Kerchi and Jenny all have good points and are probably right. Just me bein' irrational. All part of the reality of who Sara is not matching up with the fantasy image I've always had in my head. That's all.

[SnakeEyes]

Who was I? Well when you were talking to Sara with your woman I was standing behind Sara off to the right (your right). 5'10, blonde/brown hair that's real short on the sides and thining on top (oof!)-combed forward. I was wearing jean shorts and a red Des Moines Menace soccer t-shirt.

[transformed]

i know how you feel. i mean, not about sara specifically, but...yeah.
i read into people's words or actions too much sometimes. or take things personally that weren't meant that way at all. well, maybe that's not how you feel, but oh well :)

[Bubbles]

Originally posted by SnakeEyes
...Well when you were talking to Sara with your woman...

His WHAT?!?!?! Way to make it sound like he owns me... Actually, it's the other way around. I own him. :D

Sorry... back to the original topic....

Ok, I remember seeing you.

Sara did seem like she was having a hard time deciding who to go to, which is why people should have lined up. But did we? No. Why? Because we weren't thinking about how uncomfortable it would make her. How would you feel if you were being circled by fans? I, personally, would crack and someone would die. Jus' sayin'...

[Jason13]

Originally posted by NCFreak
And Jason, which were you?

I don't know where you guys all were to meat them, I met them in the ally behind their bus like 45 minutes after the show, and there weren't that many people back there circling so I know I wasn't where you were. If you took any pics that have the crowd in front on the dancefloor I am like 2 feet to the right of Sean, right next to the annoying little girls to the right of me.

[Thilefan]

But, I wanted to mention that NCFreak isn't the only one who has been treated not so good by Sara. My mom was totally friendly with her, and she was completely rude to my mom, strangely enough. Let's just say it was a strange experience. Oh well. People are human ;)

~Thilefan

[NCFreak]

Originally posted by Thilefan
But, I wanted to mention that NCFreak isn't the only one who has been treated not so good by Sara. My mom was totally friendly with her, and she was completely rude to my mom, strangely enough. Let's just say it was a strange experience. Oh well. People are human ;)

~Thilefan
That's not what I said. Sara did not treat me badly. It was just the way I interpreted things in an uncomfortable situation. I'm giving her the benefit of the doubt.

*regrets posting this thread* [guilty]

[aurea55]

aww dont be too hard on yourself. i know the feeling though, sometimes we just look in too deep on other peoples reactions (friends, family, celebrities ;) ) and it just makes us feel like we've done something wrong. i doubt she thought you were a stalker or anything, like what the other people said, maybe she was just flustered with the circle thing going on.

if it helps i'll share my embarrassing NC stories with ya.

the first time i ever saw NC, i didnt even know who they were! they opened for glen phillips and before the show i went to the bathroom. the bathroom at largo is realllly little so when i was trying to get out i accidentally bumped into this really tall, pretty girl (turns out she was chris thile's gf). if that weren't bad enough, sean was standing outside waiting to go to the bathroom too (he saw the whole thing). after finally getting out of the bathroom i just looked at him weird and i was kind of lost (lol) so i just stood there for the longest time. i think he was just looking at me like, wth?. luckily i had no clue who they were so i didnt feel that embarrassed.
i recently saw them again and after the show sara accidentally hit me in the head with her bow. i turned around and she apologized but i was so shocked i didnt say anything. i think i just stared at her, maybe i smiled, i dunno. now that i think about it, that probably made her really uncomfortable lol.
agh..believe it or not, i have more stories. i probably have bad luck with meeting them :(

[OkieLovinNC]

Aurea55, don't feel bad! They probably thought I was a complete moron when I met them. :rolleyes: I did feel really bad about calling Sara and Sean over the second time to sign my shirt and get another picture. :( I'm sure they were tired and wanted to be left alone.

And Bryan, Sara does not hate you nor does she think you're a stalker. And don't feel bad about posting this thread, either.

[aubrey]

i don't think she HATES you!! or that she's not the person you think her to be...

... a band i had been in love with, Sloan, i saw them live a couple of times, and got to meet my favorite member at the time, Patrick, both times. by the end of our conversations, both of us were practically gritting our teeth, and i had the impression that he hated me, too.

well, in his case, he might have, although everyone else was extremely cool and wonderful :) i think it was just a thing of he and i not getting along that well in real life, for whatever reason.

so worse case scenerio, maybe it's a... natural uneasiness, she has nothing personal towards you, but for some unseen reason...


*shrug*

[sarah]

Ya prob just caught her on a bad day or somethin. When I met her she was actually the nicest out of all 3, I was overwhelmed how smiley and friendly she was. I think Sean was just a little annoyed with my though cuz I took too many pics of him ;) and I was kinda rushed when I met Chris so I didn't really get to talk to him much.

[NCFreak]

Oh, did I forget to mention that I talked to Sara right when she came out? She jumped off the stage and plopped down right next to us, and then I made a joke about her breaking her foot. Anyway, I talked to her right then about how awesome the Atlanta show was, then she turned and began to talk to someone else. However, since I hadn't gotten everything out that I had wanted, I got in line to talk to her again. I'm thinkin' that's what made her avoid me...cuz she had already talked to me 5 minutes before. Make since?

Sorry, I shoulda mentioned this before. :D

[aubrey]

it may also have been a situation where it's like sensory overload, where there's so much going on, and she's trying to fit it all in and stuff.

..or something...