Frustration with Sean

[southernyankee]

Ok, so I am not really frustrated with Sean-more like he's going to make me have a complex. Ok, I don't expect too much out of people-I realize Sara, Sean, and Chris are human and have to meet a lot of peopple aznd all that but I ahve met the boy 3 times and he never talks to me! Sara talks to me, Chris talks to me but Sean will not talk to me, even when I start talking 1st-maybe I scare him? ah-I am already developing a complex!
No, in all seriosuness now, he really didn't talk to me on Saturday and I talked to him 1st-it kinda hurt my feelings but I know Ia m way too sensitive. He seems really shy, but still-geez! Oh, well-I love his music so who cares if he talks to me? Next time I'll ahve to ask him some clever question or soemthing.
That's my little vent of the day :-)
April

[matt the fiddler]

sean is usually a lot quieter than the others.... i wouldn't say he was trying to be rude- he is jsut a quiet/ soft spoken person...
think of if some of your quieter/ more introverted friends had a kabillion people they barely know trying to talk to them- they probably wouldn't act much differently...

matt

[mwade79]

I don't know the guy personally at all, but I'll have to agree w/ Matt on this one. When I met NC, Sean did come off as a bit more aloof than the others (especially Chris) but I think that's his personality. Speaking as someone who's on the more introverted side, sometimes that can come across as aloofness or rudeness when it's just shyness. My mom used to always tell me that I need to be careful b/c some people may think I'm being rude when it's just that I don't know what to say and am a quiet person.

[mandoBob]

Give the poor guy some slack.
He's seems to be completely unlike Chris as far as personality goes, so I wouldnt expect him to be boisterous. Just try to put yourself in his place: maybe his dog just died or something? maybe he misses home?
After the show we saw, I asked him what's it like being on the road all the time? and he answered very graciously, something like it's not easy, but we get to do what we love and that was about it. very nice, but not talkative.
I think that the creeksters make themselves available to their fans shows that they really do care, so I say be thankful we get to interact at all, and learn to appreciate them for who they are. I for one like that Sean is quieter, b/c it gives me hope that regular guys (as opposed to extroverts) can do well on stage too.

[nitejule]

i know what you mean, i met them 3 times, but the third time he talked a little we just talked about computers and digital cameras. it waskinda funny actually. but sean is a really shy guys, but ya still gotta LOVE him. his personality is a little different, i must have scared him, lol b/c i am a very outgoing person and hyper at times (alot like chris if ya will) but don't take it too seriously, just talk (try) next time. i am sure its nothing to do with you personally.

[southernyankee]

I totally understand that he's introverted so am I-I didn't mean to come across like I was angry or anything. I still love Sean to death beleive me and I don't think he's a jerk-my feelings were just a little hurt because I said something to him and he didn't even answer me-but like I said I am oversensitive and was suffering from sleep deprevation-I shouldn't have even posted the stupid post! [bang] haha-I am over it Just ignore me :-)
APril

[NCFreak]

I guess I'm a day late on this, but...

I've never been so lucky as to meet The Creek, or even see them live (maybe when Omaha's new arena is finished, they'll decide to play here?). However, when I've watched TV interviews, Sean barely says a thing. I feel sorry for him sometimes, but from what you have all siad, I guess that's just how he is. If I WERE to meet him, the 1st thing I'd ask is, Why do you not sing lead on any tracks on the album? The 2nd question I would ask is, Do you sing lead on any tracks on the new album? The 3rd question I would ask is, Hey, ya think your sister would go for me? ;)

Jus' kiddin' on that last one, but damn...can you blame me???

:-)) http://members.cox.net/jbholzhey/temp/sara2.bmp :-))

[coffmanmolly]

You may already know this, but on Sean's upcoming solo CD, nine tracks will be vocals unlike Let It Fall which only had the one vocal and Sean didn't even sing that! I can't wait to hear the songs on his new solo CD. It will be awesome. He has such a smooth voice.

[jaceyhomen]

April....just accept and love Sean for his music. He really doesn't have to be more than that to us. And..he has bad, tiring and grumpy days just like you and me! Some celebs will put a rose between their teeth, a lampshade on their heads and dance on the table for fans, But, Sean isn't that kind of a celeb. I think Sean is a more true, to the bone, musician than Chris and Sara; far less comfortable with strangers or fans or interviewers, happiest probably alone or with close associates writing or arranging music. And for this, we are grateful, yes?!

[southernyankee]

jaceyhomen, yes we are grateful for their honesty-in fact that's what I value most in people. -thanks everyone for responding to my stupid post and being nice to me when I deserved to be yelled at :-) I really do understand-I just posted before I really thought. I am sure Sean is a nice guy and he might not have even heard my question-I admit I am a total dork for posting that post, please forgive me!
I love you guys-just wanted to let you know that!
April

[jaceyhomen]

April. Good heavens, you are not a dork. You were disappointed in the feedback....or lack of it....you got from Sean. Which is hard when one is a loyal, true-blue, devoted fan!

I've never been to one of their concerts, have you? I think Sean probably opens up some when he's on stage, but I think basically he'd rather be doing a cd, or writing music, or arranging it or something. I don't think he's very comfortable pressing the flesh, or making small talk.. Maybe I'm wrong.

If I may make a suggestion. When I'm about to post a message that my inner voice tells me might not be received well, or I'm angry at the time, etc. etc......I check with Matt first to see if it's appropriate, or will it get me yelled at!

Have a nice rest of the weekend!
Jacey

[mandofocus]

I agree with jacey. I haven't been to a concert yet and haven't met them, but I think that Sean mabey (I don't know so don't quote me please) more of a behind-the-scenes type person. One who like record, making, and writing the music, but is a little bit nervous in front of other people. I myself am that way. I LOVE writing music and recording it onto my computer, but I don't really like playing in front of other people or sending them my new songs in case people don't like tham.
-PJ-

[Sarah9230]

Hey Matt, do you know any way to break our sean out of his little shell? Those of us who are big sean fans need some way for us to get verbally closer. Even if it is a meaningless knowlege of presents. :p

Sarah

[matt the fiddler]

i would say, just realize he is a real person.. it is easy to loose site of that when becoming a huge fan of something.. just a normal guy, with a job. this however is one that just happens to be higher profile than most. as far as breaking him out or starting conservation with him- you just need to be as considerate as possible when around him- nice but not too imposing.
just realize there are starting to be a lot a lot of people that want to meet them now, so naturally it will be more difficult to meet him or chat than it used to be as they get bigger- but give it time, and hopefully sometime you will be able to.

[ILUVCHRIS]

where in the world are you meeting these guys, almost every post i read I hear about Oh I met him five times and her six Yeah I hung out with this one and that one, Am I living on the moon or something, Ive been to three shows and still never met them, whats the deal?:confused:

[nitejule]

all you have to do is to hang around after the shows, but you have to willingly be patient or you won't really enjoy it. i have met lots of bands and i have to say that nickel creek is the band that i like to meet the most. i love talkin to sara and chris, and sean is such a sweetie!!! so its all worth it!!!

[Thilefan]

It all depends on the concert surroundings. The first concert I went to was packed with people and I was only able to talk to Chris and Sara (Sean was nowhere in sight) for about 5 minutes. However, the second concert was better as far as meeting the band. I had to wait until everybody else was gone. Then I got to talk to Chris, and he eventually envited me to play his mando (Thilefan's Heaven). Just be patient, you'll get a chance.

Thilefan

[nitejule]

i agree that it depends on the concert and how many people are there. but its all good. everyone show some sean love!!!

[dustinscottt]

I met NC on saturday and he was the quite one of the bunch. He just has a to him self personality. You cant hold it against him. he opend up a little before they left. Lets just be happy that they are so friendly and understand that not everyone is the same.

[nitejule]

i agree we are all different, but nickel creek is awesome even if sean is the quite one. i still love them all!!

[banjoscott]

Before Riverbend on Saturday, I was getting some pre-concert supper at Panera Bread when I noticed Sean in line ahead of me. After I ordered, I talked with him for a few minutes while he waited for his order up near the counter. He was totally cool and asked me about Riverbend and who else was playing there. When I told him that after their show, I was going to go see Jeff Coffin's band, he told me that Chris was sitting in with Jeff that night. It was cool to get to talk to such a regular dude in one of my normal eating hangouts in the great city of Chattanooga.

[NCFan4Ever]

Okay, the post about whoever got to play Chris's mandolin reminds me of an incident that happened at merlefest this year...

Chris Thile and Mike Marshall played a concert together at the Plaza stage. For those of you who have never been to Merlefest (and are TOTALLY missing out on the best weekend of the year), that's a really tiny stage with like, 20 chairs sitting out in front of it. I got there like, an hour early and got to sit front row, center, which was about 10 feet away from the stage. Anyway, after the show, Chris was signing autographs and talking to fans and this little like, 6 year old girl went up to him and asked him if she could play his mandolin. He (of course, being the wonderful person he is) said yes, and this little tiny girl started playing Ode to A Butterfly like, exactly perfect! It was sooo cute!

And about the Sean issue, I agree that he is definately the quiet one of the group...however, (and i've told this story a gazillion times and you are all probably getting sick of it) he DID approach me one time when I was at this teen dance thing (again at merlefest) and I was wearing one of their t-shirts. He walked up to me and tapped me on the shoulder and was like nice shirt! Not much, but I'm still floating on a cloud from it and it happened 2 years ago!!

And once, I saw him, Sara, Darrol Anger, and Mike Marshall at this half concert/half workshop thing...they would all like, play a song and then talk about how they played it and stuff like that....and Sean was actaully talkative! But I think he is DEFINATELY a shy person. However, that only makes me more obsessed with him!

[Chip]

I think everybody's made some good points. Basically, there are musicians out there who are amazing players but still really shy people. Sean may be one of those.... and if so, he'll probably always be that way to some extent.

Also, keep in mind that playing shows 5 or 6 nights out of 7 is *incredibly* grueling, even when you're as young as they are. I was backstage for a show in San Francisco, and Chris had been out literally all day (from 10 AM until about 5 minutes before showtime, minus time for soundcheck) doing the photo shoot for his then-new record. This after playing a show the night before and getting up at 5AM to ride in the van from the previous gig to get to SF in time for the photo shoot.

In spite of that, he *still* went out after the show, totally exhausted, to meet fans. Yes, it was a little shorter appearance than normal, but I thought that was pretty amazing.... that's the commitment that the three of them have to their fans.

Just keep in mind that anytime you meet somebody after a show, they could be exhausted, tired, totally pumped, energetic, or anywhere in between... I doubt that many of us non-performer types could handle the stamina and energy it takes to do what they do, and I just admire them all the more for making the commitment to their fans whenever they can.

[nitejule]

i agree. and maybe he wasn't feeling to good. there are alot of things. and you know that they do have well, kind of a crazy life. but i agree they do love their fans and make it apoint to meet people at every show. either backstage or afterwards.

[NCFan4Ever]

I agree! I have never been to a Creek show when they didn't go out and talk to the fans...I think that's one of my favorite parts about nickel creek...they're so down to earth and humble, even though they are like, musical gods!

[nitejule]

i know what you mean they are just GREAT. i really love them all!! they are just amazing people!!!

[NCFan4Ever]

i know! is there anything bad about them at all? the only thing negative thing i can say is that Chris and Sean aren't married to me!

[nitejule]

hahahhaha.......i think that is a reason why sooo many people like them to. they haven't really been negative on any level that i know of. i think they are good role-models. if i had kids (which isn't gonna be for a loooooooong time) i would like and be happy for them to look up to nickel creek.

[NCFan4Ever]

I'm only 17 and I'm sooo single, but I already can't wait to take my future kids to their first Nickel Creek concert!

[nitejule]

yeah haha......i am sure that nickel creek is one of those bands that has staying power!!!

[Ames]

I know I'm late on this subject and my input is a little off topic but.. I have been to four NC shows and unfortunately have only gotten to meet them once. The last three shows were a) out of town) and b) involved me being accompanied by people who just wanted to get home because it was really late. Not to mention they all occured in a span of four days and I was REALLY REALLY sick and wanting to get home and lie down lol. But when I did meet them I got to talk to all fo them and they were all extremely nice but Sean was definitely really quiet, except when people were asking him about guitar chords and such. But I did sign their guestbook and thanked them and appologized for being such a dork and Sean actually emailed me back thanking me for the note and saying he'd see me at the next show. I don't know if they do/did that alot but I literally fell out of my chair. He's really nice, so don't knock him for being quiet.
PS-I still have that email even though it's been a year and a half!! lol :)

[creekster_anna]

[eek!!] You are so lucky! I am amazed he e-mailed you since he rarely does his journal entries. I would have kept it that long too if he had e-mailed me. Plus, you have at least been able to meet them all; I have only met Sara, which was great don't get me wrong, but I really wanted to meet Sean and Chris too.

Sorry if this sounded mean; I didn't intend for it to. Just venting my feelings that's all.:)

[Ames]

I know right!!! I was like-this is why I love you Sean!!! lol He was like-sorry we didn't get to talk more or something of the like. I read it over and over and over-which didn't take long since it was like three sentences!! But I really appreciated it nonetheless.

[NCFan4Ever]

Well, I have e-mailed them like, 5 times and Sara has written back every time...I mean, nuthin much, just like thanks for your comments, hope you get to go to another show, stuff like that....

But it's stuff like that that makes Nickel Creek such an awesome band!

[moonstargirl675]

Sean's usually more softspoken and quieter than his sister Sara, or Chris. They seem more outgoing then him and he's also pretty shy [run] , so if he didn't talk to you it's not your fault, maybe he was just to shy to say anytyhing

[Marianne]

For those of you who have gotten e-mail replies back from them, how long did it take for you to get a response? I e-mailed Sean and Sara yesterday and I'm hoping I get responses back. If that happens I will be so happy.
I hoping I get responses from both of them but especially Sean for obvious resaons.;)

Marianne:D

[NCFan4Ever]

It usually takes a while...they are VERY busy!

[cabriogirl21]

I think that sean doesn't know what to say to people he doesn't know. When I met him, I asked him about the band and the upcoming tour. He was really nice and talkative. He doesn't start conversations, but once you get him talking he is very personable. It is hard to talk to so many people that you don't really know. He does a good job for being shy.[shock]

[Thilefan]

Sean is an incredibly NICE guy. The first time I met him, he was kind of shy (NOT RUDE) and didn't know quite what to say...however, when I talked to him this year at Wintergrass he actually initiated the conversation! He recognized me and started talking to me!!

Robin

[NCFan4Ever]

Sean rocks whether he's shy or not!

[southernyankee]

Can I just say one more thing? I think y'all are misinterpreting my post. I was just expressing my FEELINGS at that moment in time (which are not even the same now because feelings change all the time)-frustrated was a bad word to use. I never said Sean was a jerk, I never said Sean was rude-I just said he either didn't hear me or he was ignoring me-which if he was, I really don't care anymore. Sean has been nice to me in the past and he's only human-I know I can be crabby at times due to the circumstances I'm in and I ignore people too (I am not saying that's what Sean did I am just saying I don't expect him to be perfect because he's not).
April

[Thilefan]

Gotchu,

I know what you mean. I was just turing it a different direction. Wasn't saying that you thought Sean was rude, I was just saying that when he starts to recognize you, he will warm up to you.

Robin

[southernyankee]

Ok :-) I just want to make sure everyone understood what I meant. I'm not jaded! ;)
April